The Big Reveal - A Story of Christmas Magic Lost and Found
Has your family adopted an Elf on
the Shelf? We did. His name was Charles George. He was a good elf, who monitored the
children’s behavior, reported back to Santa each night, and occasionally
corresponded with the children and left them small gifts, and now, he is lost –
hidden so well (by me) last Christmas Eve that I cannot find him anywhere. For more than a week, I searched for him,
alternately panicking and praying to St. Anthony, all to no avail. Now what?
I pondered my options. I
considered buying a new elf and trying to pass him off as Charles George, but
this year’s elves have redesigned faces and I knew the children would not be
fooled. I considered buying the
redesigned elf and concocting a story about how this newer model came to us in
Charles George’s place. Two days ago, I
drove to Target and stood for a long time – indecisive – before those alien
elves. In the end, I just couldn’t bring
myself to lie in the face of my questioning-but–oh-so-wanting-to-believe 9-year-old
daughter. It seemed to me an insult to
her belief - her trust – at her age it
just stretched it too far. Though still
undecided, I left the elves and headed for home, hoping against hope that our
housekeeper or I might miraculously find our AWOL elf. Alas, no.
And now the children are home from
school, busily and merrily decorating the tree while I lounge in my room with a
book. In time, my daughter wanders into
my calm, womblike room and begins chatting earnestly with me about Charles
George’s imminent arrival. I close my
book and raise my heart, mind, and eyes to God one last time, beseeching him
for a miracle, or at least some wisdom.
The answer comes like a small stone falling into the deep, quiet pool of
my heart. I look into Gloria’s eyes and
say, “There’s something I have to tell you.
I am so sorry, but I have looked everywhere for Charles George and I
cannot find him.” I watch her eyes, her
facial music paused in uncomprehending silence.
Several moments pass in suspended animation.
“What do
you mean?”
“I’ve
looked everywhere,” I say softly, “and I can’t find Charles George.”
“Are you
telling me he’s not real?” I give her a
pained, apologetic grimace.
“How is he
NOT REAL?! …… It’s YOU?! YOU move
him?......... I KNEW IT!” She is crying
now and my heart hurts. “YOU lied to
me! How could you lie to me like that?! It can’t be you! It can’t be!
You couldn’t do all of that! How
could you do it? When? In the middle of the night? (I nod) YOU leave the candy? The notes are from YOU?”
“Yes.”
She is crying harder now, her sweet, bewildered face a
mottled fuchsia. She is hurting and so
am I. Each question, each exclamation
another hard stone falling into my heart – plop….plop…plop. I want to cry too, but she is such an
empathetic person, I know that would be unbearable for her, so I simply pray
and let the prayers and the hurt flow between us like blood washing a
wound. She is angry now. I can feel it. It crackles in the air.
“How could
you lie to me like that?”
“It’s OK to
be mad at me, sweetheart. I know you are
angry and that’s OK……..I just hope eventually you will remember how much fun it
was to believe he was real, and the only way I could give you that fun – that
magic – was to lie to you and to your brother.
And now that you know, I really hope you will help me keep this secret
for your brother.”
“I know…..I
know. He is only 6. That would be really awful if he found out.”
“Would you
like a hug?”
She glances
upward at me, through strings of hair that have fallen into her face and stuck
to her tears. She swipes fiercely at her
face with the backs of her hands and says, “Not yet.”
“OK.”
Silence.
“So, YOU
wrote the note from Santa last year, saying Charles George was going back to
the North Pole with him?”
Oh,
no. I forgot about that.
“That was
you too?”
“Dear God,”
I say, either aloud or in my head. This
is spinning out into dangerous territory.
We are teetering on the edge of something so precious and fragile,
balancing on a filament of belief that is stretching so thin, and I know, at
this moment, one way or the other, she is going to fall. She may fall into denial, slipping sweetly
and innocently back into her magical world, or she will topple into reality and
there will be no going back.
“What about
Santa, Mom?” She asks.
I
pause. I feel I have to give her one
last chance to turn back, like Persephone, to stay in the darkness for one more
year. “Let’s not talk about that right
now, honey.”
“No! No!”
Tell me! YOU HAVE TO TELL
ME! Is Santa real?”
“There is a
spirit of Christmas, love, that is very real.
Santa is real in spirit, but is he a big elf who brings you presents in
his sleigh and climbs down our chimney?”
No, he’s not real like that.”
Sad
silence.
“And the
Easter Bunny? And, the Tooth Fairy? And, the Leprechaun?”
“Oh,
God. Lord have mercy,” I say, as I watch
her lurch into the bright light of a hard new reality. A slightly hysterical giggle escapes my lips
before I can stifle it, and I glance over to see if I have offended her. “This is not funny, and I am not laughing at
you, my love; I am laughing because I think I may be in Hell.”
She looks
at me and she chuckles. My magic
girl. Our eyes meet and hers are
smiling. She has given me my miracle. That is God’s mercy.
We laugh
together now and I feel our bond. It is
stronger. We are allies now.
“I know it
hurts, honey, and this isn’t how I wanted you to find out, but I didn’t know
what else to do.” I explain the whole
story now, of my many searches and my back up plans. I ask her for advice. “Should we buy another elf for you and your
brother?”
“Yes! Yes!”
She says…….”How in the world did you do it all, Mom?”
“I am
amazing.”
She
laughs. “How do you hide the eggs? How do you make those Leprechaun
footprints?.....How? How? How?”
I answer her questions.
In her eyes I see admiration and gratitude. I see acceptance. This is a miracle. We are a team. I tell her that and we high five.
It is
twilight. We leave the boy at home with
a baby sitter and drive to a local children’s store. She selects the elf. She asks if we can spend a little more time
together looking around the shop. I
agree and she deftly selects a few presents for two of her cousins. She is a gifted shopper. I tell her so. I tell her everything is more fun when I am with
her. She has landed squarely on her
feet, my valiant girl. Her spirit is
dazzling. We are giddy girls together,
and I find myself wondering if we are riding an endorphin and oxytocin high,
released in response to the shared pain of Revelation.
On the
drive home, we plot and plan the introduction of the new elf. We construct his back-story. She is thrilled that she can touch tis elf,
something that was forbidden with Charles George, when she believed it would “steal
his magic.” She bubbles and froths with
a million questions. She wants answers to
all the mysteries. She assures me that
it really is OK that I told her. She likes
this new reality. She admits that this
year she was “a little ‘ishy’ about the whole Charles George and Santa thing.” She seems truly grateful. Grateful!
When her
brother is finally asleep, she creeps out of her bedroom and finds me. We sit together in my office as I type a note
explaining that Charles George is sick and Santa has sent a new elf in his
place – an elf who is “sooooo excited” to be adopted by a new family and who
needs a new name…… She carefully selects
a location and arranges the nameless elf just so with the note propped behind him. I hand her two candy canes from a secret
stash. She marvels once again at my
subterfuge, then places the candy canes next to the elf, one cane facing the
other to form a heart shape. It is now
9:30 – long past her bedtime – but I can see she is still scintillating with
the creative possibilities of this new reality.
“You are
still wide awake, aren’t you?” I
ask. I feel compassion for her. I revel in our bond. I walk her to her room. We climb up into her lofted bed and I read
softly to her from “The Penderwicks.” I
read until I feel her energy soften and I know she is ready to make her way to
sleep. To sleep, perchance to dream, once
more, of magic that lives on if we but close our eyes.